Outlining this might seem elementary. New findings on teens’ sexual behavior, however, indicate that clear pronouncements of what constitutes consensual anal sex are very, very much needed.
According to researchers from the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, young men are not always concerned about getting consent to perform anal sex with female partners, normalizing the idea that coercion and pain are normal parts of a young woman’s sexual life.
Hello. I’m white. I’m a man. I’m straight. I’m educated, and I was given a job, which I continue to hold. I’m extremely privileged. Everything I say must be taken with a grain of salt re: that knowledge - the words coming out of me are steeped in privilege.
What I hate about the privilege I have is that I’m expected to be silenced by it - to tell myself (and possibly others) to shut up, that the things we have are good, and good enough.
News flash: they’re not.
What I hate about the privilege I have is that every time I want to speak up for the victims of sexism, racism, classism or hate directed toward a minority (in actual number or just in terms of inequality) I think to myself, “but what have you to be outraged about? you have it pretty good.” I hate that it feels like I’m supposed to think that, and I hate the thought when it appears.
I hate all the times I haven’t spoken up. I hate that I’ve written things like this before and not posted them. That voice - This isn’t what a comedian is supposed to write. This isn’t what a fiction writer is supposed to write. This isn’t what a bad cartoonist is supposed to write. This isn’t what someone who has it pretty good is supposed to write.
Fuck all that.
It’s extremely easy to be blind to the world, especially in the age of instant knowledge and a 12-hour news cycle. The potential for overreacting or underreacting to specific events is huge. The potential for picking up and pointing to the wrong set of isolated incidents and sensationalizing a trend that doesn’t exist is huge. The potential for sweeping actual incidents of terror, violence, murder, rape, and injustice under the rug is huge. Often if you want to know what is really going on you have to find it yourself. The days of being fed what you’re supposed to know are gone.
The “knowledge” gained by individuals about the world they live in is no longer broadcast to the masses from a finite number of agendas - you are in control of what you know. This is both a great and terrible thing. Terrible in that you can choose to avoid things that don’t make you feel good. You can watch Netflix. You can watch politicians talk about things they’ve been paid to talk about. You can watch sports, or play poker, or see what a certain celebrity is saying right now or who they’re dating, and continue to ignore the perils of the rest of the people who live on this planet with you, and the perils of the planet that keeps us all alive.
Or you can take the red pill. Choose to learn more, to open your eyes, to let in more light, even if that light shows you things you know may hurt you, make you sad, make you uncomfortable, make you feel small, make you feel unimportant, make you reconsider your place in the world and make you wonder just what - if anything - you can do about it.
There has always been injustice, and war, and greed - it’s hard to sensationalize these things. It’s hard to make people care about things they believe are just parts of “reality.” Things that are just too bad. Too terrible to look at. Too horrible to fix. People are in the habit, have been in the habit, of looking away.
But I’m asking you to consider using your time here, during your short life, to use the tools we have available to us while we’re still able, to look at the world and its people and its problems, and to do it on your own. You may find things are vastly different than what you are told through filtered commentary. You may find there is no such thing as “post-racial”, that rape culture is real and that capitalism eventually destroys everything it makes. You may find that the the answers to the world’s problems don’t fit into columns marked “conservative” or “liberal.” You may find that it is not the poor who deserve our contempt, but the powerful. You may find yourself ignoring the voice that tells you things are good enough and if it’s not good enough for someone it’s their own damn fault.
You may find that what becomes attractive to you is working towards speaking up in every possible instance for someone with fewer rights than you.
Please don’t take my word for it. Look at the world. Actively look for issues and events that don’t directly affect you. Listen to every voice you can - filter nothing. Forget that you have it pretty good and pretend you don’t.
It may hurt, and it may make you feel useless, but I promise you it is not useless.
I showed my husband (an MP in the military) the video. He says that it was wrong for the following (and not just obvious) reasons:
With that much distance between the police and the protesters (and it wasn’t a riot, mind you), an officer should have come and given a proclamation telling the crowd to disperse because without a permit, it was illegal to protest there. The police in Ferguson failed to do this.
If the crowd didn’t disperse, a shield formation should have gathered to begin to push back the crowd. No physical contact should be made. If someone becomes violent, a gap would open in the wall, the protester would be taken in, zip-tied and handed off. The police in Ferguson failed to do this.
If the protest became a riot, and a violent one, then a few canisters of tear gas are to be used. What was used in the video was beyond excessive. An area should never be saturated like that. The police in Ferguson failed to do this.
Rubber bullets are to be used in a violent riot. Not a peaceful protest. The police in Ferguson failed to do this.
He says that at this point, the National Guard should be brought in because the police are out of control and what happened in this video was totally unacceptable and wrong.
Fuck the police in Ferguson. This is barbaric.
LTMC: When even other law enforcement officials are saying the force used was excessive, I think it’s safe to say the force used was excessive.
Guns became central to the Panthers’ identity, as they taught their early recruits that “the gun is the only thing that will free us — gain us our liberation.”
The Panthers responded to racial violence by patrolling black neighborhoods brandishing guns — in an effort to police the police. The fear of black people with firearms sent shockwaves across white communities, and conservative lawmakers immediately responded with gun-control legislation.
Then Gov. Ronald Reagan, now lauded as the patron saint of modern conservatism, told reporters in California that he saw “no reason why on the street today a citizen should be carrying loaded weapons.” Reagan claimed that the Mulford Act, as it became known, “would work no hardship on the honest citizen.” The NRA actually helped craft similar legislation in states across the country. Fast-forward to 2013, and it is a white-male dominated NRA, largely made up of Southern conservatives and gun owners from the Midwest and Southwestern states, that argues “do not tread on me” in the gun debate.
“Statistically, a woman is more likely to be hurt by a man than she is to ever be eaten by a shark, hit by a car, be attacked by a bear, crash in a plane, or be bitten by a spider. When a woman expresses fear of any of these events, she is still seen as a rational person. When I tell people that I am afraid of swimming in the ocean because I’m afraid of sharks, they accept it almost without question. But, when I tell people that I’m afraid of men, that men scare me more than sharks and spiders and freak plane accidents all combined, I immediately lose their respect. I am considered elitist. I am considered sub-human.”—A Benediction For My Daughter (via oeua)
“Elegies for boys who never thought they’d be household names. Who valued the simple dignity of a humble existence. Elegies for the unarmed. For men whose last moments were filled with panic, desperation, for boys who cried out for their mother. A child starts running in fear in Sanford; a man crying “I can’t breathe!” on the sidewalk pavement in Queens; shot in the back while handcuffed and kneeling in an Oakland subway station—”I have a four year old daughter” were his last words. Plainclothed and shot by two of his own in Harlem; seventy-years-old and shot in his kitchen by an officer who calls him a nigger; shot in San Clemente, his daughters watching from the car window; soaking wet, begging for help in North Carolina and shot ten times; shot in Wal-Mart for holding a toy gun; shot, cornered and unarmed, in his Bronx apartment bathroom; shot in Ferguson Missouri, from thirty-five feet away, the August sun on his face, fear lodged under his sternum, his hands in the air.”—Josie Duffy, in “Elegies for Mercy: Michael Brown and Ferguson, MO”
A city in the St. Louis metropolitan area has become incredibly tense after local police reportedly shot and killed an unarmed teenager on Saturday afternoon.
So let’s stop saying Mike Brown was shoplifting. Because he wasn’t. He was merely in the road with his friend when a cop decided he didn’t want them in the road. The cop then decided to get out of his car, confront the two teens, get his gun and then proceeded to fire at them when they, like most sane people, tried to run away from danger. Mike Brown was hit. Attempted to turn around, raised his hands, and the police officer shot him multiple times.
Have you heard about Peter Capaldi refusing to act a romantic relationship with Clara? Do you think he'll do well, or be smothered by Moffat?
From what I’ve gathered, Peter Capaldi is a huge fan of Doctor Who that pretended to be a huge Moffat stan until he’d signed an airtight contract, at which point he revealed he hates the direction Moffat was taking the show he loves, plans to systematically undo it to the best of his ability, has been openly mocking and refusing the participate in parts of the script he doesn’t think are true to the character, and insisting that they “won’t chase him off this show,” which is basically saying “this town ain’t big enough for the both of us.”
I think the new season of Doctor Who is going to be glorious.